What Women Want

I bet most men wish they new what women wanted. Or maybe it is better to be in the dark about it, although that can be frustrating at times. Our youth group recently tried to answer this very question. We separated the guys and girls let them each come up with lists of what they thought women were looking for in a man. Then we put the lists together to see what overlapped. That was fairly entertaining. The answers ranged from looks to money and from hygiene to humor.

Although that was a fun exercise I really wanted to help the students see what characteristics women should be looking for in a man. That means for us guys, characteristics we should be striving to put in our own lives. So like in my last post I mentioned we looked at 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1:5-10 and found a whole heap of what makes a great guy. Things like, temperate, respectable, above reproach, self controlled, gentle, just, not easily angered, faithful... and so the list goes on. Ladies need to keep the bar set high and look for men with these types of qualities, not settling for anything less. And guys need to work hard at developing these qualities in their own lives so they can be the men God desires them to be, and possibly the husbands he calls them to be.

We also looked at Ephesians 5:25-31 to see what the role God intended for the husbands. God calls husbands to love their wives sacrificially, as Christ loves the church. Just as Christ gave himself up for the church, husbands are called to put the needs of their wives ahead of their own. We also see that husbands are to be the spiritual leaders of the household. R. Kent Hughes askes some probing questions in his comentary of Ephesians, regarding verses 25-27. He asks, "Is our wife more like Christ because she is married to us? Or is she like Christ in spite of us?" Men need to be students of the Word ready to lead and teach their families and encourage them in their Christian walk. So ladies, be sure to look for men who are rooted in the Word, and able to lead, encourage, help motivate you to be more Christlike.

I truly hope these are the types of things that the next generation of women will want and expect to find in men.